Stepdad-in-training makes New Year’s promises

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by Lorain County Moms

By Jorge Medina, The Orange County Register

This year, I need that to change the fact that I don’t follow through with my resolutions. This time, I have a 7-year-old boy who will inspire me to keep my resolutions.

Which is why this year I will be putting measures in place to set me up to succeed, rather than allow myself to fail. In fact, I am no longer calling them resolutions — they will be known as promises.

These promises all involve Sport, so every time I look at him I will be reminded why I made them in the first place.

Plus, I will not be making ridiculous, unreachable promises that sound great but I know in my head I will never keep, like in years past. They are attainable goals this time.

So here are my five promises for 2012.

  1. Lose 50 pounds. Not that I need to be healthy for my wedding, but I am tired of Sport coming home telling me things like, “This kid at my school said he thought you were a wrestler because you are really fat.”
  2. Don’t get frustrated with Sport’s study habits. I sometimes forget he is young and it is difficult to learn new things he has never seen before. Because he is so good at sports and picks it up so fast, I always want him to learn like that in school. This year I will be more patient.
  3. Coach Sport in baseball. I want to coach Sport again in the sport that he loves. I want to keep teaching him how to be a great teammate, how to win the right way, and how play the game the right way.
  4. Be a more active stepdad. Lately — during this NFL season — I have spent more time on the couch than outside on the driveway throwing Sport the football. Lately he has fallen in love more with video games. I would love to stop that trend and remind him that outside sports are a better way to spend time.
  5. Pass on something new to Sport. I know being a parent is filled with teachable moments, so Sport will undoubtedly learn something from me at some point in the year. But I want Sport to have a piece of my legacy. My dad taught me to play tennis, and I was able to play in college. In 2012 I would like to pass on that skill.

These promises for 2012 will not only keep me accountable for the year, but will help me to bond even more with my soon-to-be stepson.

Jorge Medina is a stepdad-in-training to his girlfriend’s 7-year-old son who loves to play sports. He works at the Orange County Register and will be writing weekly about his adventures in quasi-parenthood. Contact Jorge at jmedina@ocregister.com or on Twitter @SteppingInGuy.

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